So, with nearly 4 weeks of lockdown under our belts and it being another 3 weeks until we find out what decisions are going to be made next, I felt the time was right to share some of my reflections.
As I’ve connected with friends, colleagues and clients over the last month it has become clear that while we’re all experiencing the same thing the way we’re experiencing it is unique to each of us.
Everywhere we look there is a plethora of insights, thoughts, tips and techniques about how to make the most of the world we’ve found ourselves. Personally, I’m glad to be through the binging stage and while I found some of it helpful, some of it positively unhelpful.
While these three P’s are definitely not new concepts nor are they anything that many of us weren’t already doing, the context for each of us has shifted as we’ve all found ourselves in unchartered territory. My intent behind sharing them is they might go some way to helping you make sense of your thoughts with either yourself or with the support of a trusted friend or external coach.
I find that I’m now making more conscious choices about how I’m spending my time and who I’m spending it with. I’m dropping ‘should do’, focusing on the ‘want to do’ and as a result I’m connecting more with my purpose (the Start with Why concept from Simon Sinek) and identifying were I can be most proactive (the Circle of Control concept from Stephen Covey) as well make the most of my days both personally and professionally.
I like to think of this as experimentation with purpose. If you don’t dip your toe in the water and practice you’ll never know, no one said it would be easy and progress is better than perfection (admittedly I’m still struggling with this concept!). I’ve recently discovered the work of Susan David which has taken my own thinking on resilience and emotional agility to a deeper level.
Seeing it as a set of skills to learn, grow and thrive as a person is helping me overcome the blips in my practice and reframing stumbling blocks as stepping stones is helping sustain and build my self confidence.
I’m a practical optimist and by encouraging my inner critic to speak to myself like I would speak to my best friend I’m starting to judge myself a bit less and show myself a bit more compassion. Without doubt, understanding when Imposter Syndrome is hampering me and being able to deploy ways to manage that has been a game changer and is equipping me to develop stronger connections with my tribe and seize the right opportunities when they arise.
Personally, I’m starting to see how these three P’s are helping reframe my approach to each and every day…..definitely starting to feel less discombobulated and connecting more with my ‘buildbackability’, while accepting some days will be better than others and there is no right way to feel right now.
I’d love to engage and explore the above in more depth so if what I’ve shared has resonated with you and you’re curious to explore more, please reach out to me.
Shona Marshall, Client Development Director at Connect Three
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